I really thought that wedding planning was going to be the best thing ever.
When my friends would get engaged and talk about how much they were spending I was secretly thinking, "I'm going to find a way to get that cheaper when I'm planning my wedding" or I look at all the little details and think, "I don't need that, I'll just skip that part."
What a wakeup call it was when I started actually planning a wedding.
This is work and it's not exactly fun all the time.
For about the last 7 years, when I would think about getting married one day, I always knew that I wanted my husband to be and I to pay for the majority of the wedding. Sure, we'd ask for a little bit of help from our parents but I wasn't going to burden them with the full cost of a wedding. And now at 32 years old, I feel even stronger about it.
Maybe this is why the planning process is a little less fun...because we really need to think about where the money is going because it's coming straight out of our bank accounts.
After we got engaged, we kept getting asked if we had set a date.
Umm...we've been engaged for all of a minute, no we haven't picked date. I immediately started feeling the pressure to find a venue, so I started looking around on Here Comes the Guide and TheKnot. Within a week we had our first venue tour and it was everything I had ever dreamed of.
A grassy outdoor ceremony space with a vineyard backdrop and a swoon worthy white tented reception space with crystal chandeliers. I fell in love and Scott watched me as I tumbled. The coordinator promised she'd have a proposal to us by Tuesday but left us with a price list. As I ran the numbers in my head I knew it would be over our budget. Scott said that he saw the look in my eyes when we walked in that tent and if wanted it, we'd make it work. Do you see why I'm marrying this guy?!
Over the next few week we toured about 6 more sites and none of them compared to the first. We had two runner up sites and both were only a few thousand dollars cheaper than "the one". After lots of discussions, 6 ititerations of the proposal from the coordinator and Scott's persistence (because he knew I loved it), we booked our venue and the dream was now a reality. Here is it, Chardonnay Golf Club, Napa Valley.
When my friends would get engaged and talk about how much they were spending I was secretly thinking, "I'm going to find a way to get that cheaper when I'm planning my wedding" or I look at all the little details and think, "I don't need that, I'll just skip that part."
What a wakeup call it was when I started actually planning a wedding.
This is work and it's not exactly fun all the time.
For about the last 7 years, when I would think about getting married one day, I always knew that I wanted my husband to be and I to pay for the majority of the wedding. Sure, we'd ask for a little bit of help from our parents but I wasn't going to burden them with the full cost of a wedding. And now at 32 years old, I feel even stronger about it.
Maybe this is why the planning process is a little less fun...because we really need to think about where the money is going because it's coming straight out of our bank accounts.
After we got engaged, we kept getting asked if we had set a date.
Umm...we've been engaged for all of a minute, no we haven't picked date. I immediately started feeling the pressure to find a venue, so I started looking around on Here Comes the Guide and TheKnot. Within a week we had our first venue tour and it was everything I had ever dreamed of.
A grassy outdoor ceremony space with a vineyard backdrop and a swoon worthy white tented reception space with crystal chandeliers. I fell in love and Scott watched me as I tumbled. The coordinator promised she'd have a proposal to us by Tuesday but left us with a price list. As I ran the numbers in my head I knew it would be over our budget. Scott said that he saw the look in my eyes when we walked in that tent and if wanted it, we'd make it work. Do you see why I'm marrying this guy?!
Over the next few week we toured about 6 more sites and none of them compared to the first. We had two runner up sites and both were only a few thousand dollars cheaper than "the one". After lots of discussions, 6 ititerations of the proposal from the coordinator and Scott's persistence (because he knew I loved it), we booked our venue and the dream was now a reality. Here is it, Chardonnay Golf Club, Napa Valley.
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The Ceremony Site
This oak tree for photos
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I mean it's stunning!! What a venue!! We had the same thing happen with our wedding venue - I knew the minute I walked into the venue that it was the one, but it was a bit more expensive as the rest and I kept trying to justify not spending the money, but in the end it was totally worth it!! PS I'm biased but I totally loved planning, probably why I plan other people's weddings now lol! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston
ReplyDeleteYour wedding venue is absolutely gorgeous! WOW! Definitely glad you guys went with your dream venue instead of settling for something cheaper that you wouldn't be as happy with. And girl, I feel you on the planning. It was super stressful at times but on the day of, no matter what happens or goes wrong, just enjoy it because it goes by so fast! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes
ReplyDeleteI just got goosebumps with that tree picture... how stunning! I am glad you went for the one you really wanted. You will never regret that! Cheers!
ReplyDeleteThat venue is gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteGirl that venue is GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!! GAHHHH! That's some Pinterest worthy shit right there baby!
ReplyDeleteahhh how exciting!! the venue is absolutely stunning.
ReplyDeletei feel you on the hard work. wedding planning was probably the worst part of my life to date. it was so stressful i was losing hair. haha. my mother in law paid for most of it, which you would think means less stress but it was way worse because we had to get her approval and do things we didn't want to do. anyway. rambling. that being said, we booked a venue we weren't sure about and ended up switching to the one we really wanted and we were so glad that we changed it. it wasn't gorgeous or anything like that, but we were allowed to stay later and bring our own booze, which is where our priorities were. haha. ANYWAY. hope the rest of wedding planning is less stressful girl :)